Minimizing someone is exactly the hallmarks of an abuser or rapist… Doesn’t matter what walk of life you or the abuser are in, if they try to minimize you in any way…

They are an abuser…

My mother Freda Bagwell was that way… She would go out of her way to make anyone that was on her radar that pissed her off, to look small and less significant than her…

Always trying to be the leader, but manipulator’s don’t lead, they abuse…

Freda was a master at manipulation and she used it to her advantage, only one small problem and it showed it’s ugly head when Don Bagwell, dad, died…

They all ended up at my house around my dinning room table….

As the family left Freda’s house, all of a sudden at my house, all my aunt’s and uncle that were in town for Don’s death watch, showed up at my house and boy howdy, did I have to put my game face on in a big hurry….

As my relatives talked to me about what went down during Don’s last couple of days and if you read the blog, you know I wasn’t allowed near Don during this time…

Freda was afraid he would spill the beans and he did that the last time I sat with him… He spilled more than beans, he gave me a wealth of information…

What I learned from those Aunt’s and the 1 uncle sitting in my home… None ever trusted Freda!!!

Yea, I am shaking my head and lauging at remembering that day in August 2006 and them telling me what the family really thought of Freda and how everyone, including granny knew the kind of woman she was and I thought, “wow, you people are so full of shit to think she is any less than your abusive households were”!!!

Seriously, christians are the biggest hypocrites on earth!!!!

“Then I go have surgery at El Paso VA and they nearly do me under and leave my brain in a vaso fog type thing, I don’t know, I know, the MRI’s back up my story and the fog from that screwed up surgery, finally cleared this year… surgery was Nov 2011… Yea, when your brain is in nonstop healing mode because of trauma, last thing you need is stupid on the operating table by incompetent anesthesia nurses!!!”

Sorry I digress….Anyhow….

Going back to when Don died and recalling the words spoken in my home… Those words were repeated by locals in Mena, and what they told me, backed up my relatives narrative…

Everyone in that town knew the truth about the family… Everyone…

Stunned, I am sitting here, stunned… Why???

Because I have lived the exact opposite of what my birth family did…

I gave back, they took… I worked to give and not be a burden and that’s all they know how to do…

It will be interesting to watch as the years pass and how some of them drop like flies at a arsenic watering hole… (yes I know how to track folks down, none have been able to hide, they like the lime light)…

You live a corrupt life, and live to be a 100, doesn’t mean you lived… but it show’s how you lived… Just look at Trump…

All that wealth and he is dead man walking and being kept alive by Walter Reed medical center, but active duty airmen coming back from Trump’s war, CAN’T GET APPROPRIATE MEDICAL OR MENTAL HEALTH CARE!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don couldn’t own what he did before he died and Freda couldn’t own what she did and they will be remembered through my stories for the kind of violent, mentally ill and corrupt American’s they were…

So far, my siblings will have the same narrative…

I remember…

and no, no apology will wipe the slate clean… You made choices you have to live by, not me… YOU!!!

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