As a care giver and I don’t mean we are at the point where I am actually spoon feeding or anything of that nature…

No our progression with Alzheimers started back around the time of his silent heart attack in 02 and that started a litney of events, that are still unfolding today…

I had Homer go through a sleep study in 08… Nada wrong…

I had Homer take an extensive psychological test through a neurologist in 17 or 18 and yep, nada wrong…

By the time we came back to the mainland in 21… I was more concerned with his heart health than his brain health and that would come back and bite me…

After the move in 24 and doctors are established, I finally get Homer to go see a neurologist and nope, they can’t find anything with their standard tests… so MRI, well nada… then…

PET Scan and there it was, shrinkage, plaque… Alzheimer’s…

Ya know, today is our 32nd anniversary and we got married in tank tops and shorts at a place in Idaho on our way back from buying a car… 32 years ago… and before 10 years in, I knew and here we are…

At first it was little things, like measuring wrong and who hasn’t measured a dozen and cut more than once… and still got your fingers???

When those kind of hiccups got more often, then I pushed for tests and I kept pushing for tests, until his body gave up the evidence…

His brain had given up the evidence decades ago….

Homer is outside setting up our traveling barbecue, because, we don’t need the monster for a couple of steaks and I watched as a simple tasks, took more time and more concentration and more frustration, but he got it set up… That being said…

The 1st one of those units we bought, we thought was defective and the company sent us a new one and find out months later, it had all been Homer and that’s when I knew the remodel we were finishing was our last flip…

Recently, putting together a bathroom vanity and doing plumbing in our main bathroom, the man I know, he’s often not home like he once was… His mind is in another zone…

Homer’s dementia has been progressive for over 20 years and we are only now seeing it progress to the point, where he needs a care giver… Someone to make sure he doesn’t get hurt and is taken care of and someone to take him to all his appointments…

32 years together as husband and wife today, and I am more care giver than wife, but mostly, best friend…

I remember…

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