There are moments when it’s not that hard to be the care giver and hold the hand literally and figuratively as they journey through Alzheimer’s…

Homer and I started flipping homes together back in 2004… by the time 2008 came around he was in college getting a degree in Architecture and I was buying a rental to remodel… We both have our talents…

by 2015 when he had his triple bypass, you knew something was off, but tests so far, showed nothing… but I knew… and the statement would come into our existence and it is one I try very hard not to say anymore!!!!

“What Planet are YOU ON???

That little statement became a thorn that would cost us in the thousands, because… no one agreed with my assessment, so it was my word against the doctors and Homer…

By the time we did our last flip in Washington in 24, I was in charge and I still didn’t have a confirmed diagnosis… Living in a rural community with what was going to happen with health care, we sold out and moved…

6 months later I have a neurologist who is listening to me and I have a husband who doesn’t want a divorce who started talking… and we get it, the diagnosis we had or I had known about since 2002…

Alzheimer’s… PET scan backed it up… no DNA markers, auto accident at 18, would change his life and it started at that broken neck and brain trauma…

When we met, Homer was 38, me 39 and we married when he turned 39, 1994…

By the time 2002, the signs were there and I had to adapt or murder him… It really screws with you when you think you are the one messing up or forgetting or not doing or what ever and in reality, it was and still is him… but more progressed…

All the little things Homer did early on… are on steroids now…

He will touch the stove when he shouldn’t or the oven… He will do something and start at the beginning and jump to the end, which happened today…(means I am more involved with the house maintenance.)…

So you fight for balance and you get into a routine, you do everything you can, not to upset…

Appointments at same time of day, plan and talk about the outing days in advance and re-enforce the positive of getting out… spontaneous behavior is not useful in this… this is now their world, you are along for the ride…

As a care giver you get into a grove and things like the puppies and training, shopping, convenience over costs… Anything to keep things comfortable for them…

Sleep was the biggest issue and now we have that under control after months of trying different meds and times and other things…

It is a disease, you take moment by moment, because you never know how that moment is going to go…

I remember…

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