Abuse each other, I won’t be there…. edited

Not much really upsets me anymore and gets me into tears… Fatigue, bangers impact that here on Hawaii, but the more I make my voice known, while I have a voice… maybe they will change their ways… or I’ll just have to get used to it… why???

Because of right now, this moment in time… We won’t be leaving Hawaii….

I have to have a reason to pick up an spend thousands of dollars and make some place else my home, hopefully my last move ever….

Yesterday changed all that, and hubby had to deal with the tears this morning…. yep, edetic all the way… no doubt…

I got a call on that face app, and we got to visit and I watched and observed and what I saw… broke my heart…. abuse, not to the extreme that I experienced… but the childs expression said it all, mainly the childs eyes and when it went for the action of reward… I knew, this home was dealing with domestic violence….

Domestic violence is not just beating the crap out of someone… it is micro managing that person, to the point… that person has no personality or say about even breathing, because they aren’t doing it the way you want… so you abuse… you abuse with a threat…. or with a swift grab of a body part or you yell… or my favorite… you decide instead of teaching the child, you act like the kid is an adult and understands… oh and they do, but not in an adult way…..

When I saw the expressions on the child… I saw myself… I spent my morning in tears telling hubby, no more face phone calls… I would remove the apps from my phone… I can’t watch the abuse in action…. thus my decision not to move anytime soon…..

If people refuse to listen when you offer advice on things… you have to let them live their lives and destroy themselves, without your participation… and that is my choice…

Abuse comes in all forms, our president has used every abusive tactic out there and that’s only because, that is the christian way…. I’m finding, those who say they don’t believe… acting the same way… tossing away their humanity…..

Just to have control over another person….

Disgustingly sad and pathetic… Slavery alive and well in the 21st century….

I doubt hubby’s daughter will be happy… but, I’m not going anyplace other than where I’m at right now… now I get why some grandparents put so much distance between themselves and their kids… hoping they will grow up and own it… so far… not seeing it…. and that is their choice….

My choice… set this house up to be comfortable for hubby and me… because regardless how I feel at this moment in time… Covid19 has all the control….

Ugh… bangers… wonder how much pot I can smoke and be oblivious????

Sun out, hubby walking dogs and I have a craft room to set up… for the long haul….

Aloha, tears over… you can’t change people… people have to want to change… We did… they didn’t…. but we are atheist… just the way we were born and made…

I remember… Margie… Sgt. USAF DAV

I removed the apps… I voiced my voice an was not heard…I hope someone wakes up before it is to late….

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